Disability

Disability comes in many shapes and forms, some are highly visible, some are not. When arranging and accepting Escort bookings several situations may arise, some clients chose not to tell me and why should they if they do not consider it a problem. Others wish to tentatively test the waters, a carer may make initial contact, accessibility, any special considerations may need to be checked out first of all.

The TLC Trust website specialises in matching disabled sexual service seekers with responsible sexual service providers, as a TLC profile holder I receive a number of enquiries from disabled, their carers and families. Often they are simply looking for an intimate experience, so they too can enjoy the experiences many others may take for granted. They also are seeking discretion, understanding and to be treated like anyone else.

Some difficulties may arise if say specialised lifting equipment, or access to older unadapted properties is required. In these instances it is often easier to arrange to meet at the client’s home, that of a close friend or consenting relative, or one of the many hotels which these days are designed to cater to as many customer needs as possible.

Making contact for anyone who’s senses are impaired can present issues, and or involving a third party such as a carer or relative. Sexual needs for family members and relatives, can be a difficult if not embarassing subject. Many of us do not like to think of our brother, sister, son, daughter in a sexual situation. Even simple things such as how to clean up aferwards can be a source of discomfort.

In accepting a booking on behalf of, or with a disabled person I prefer to stick as closely to my usual booking procedure as possible -whilst allowing for adaptations along the way. I need to have the consent of everyone involved in the booking, wherever possible I like to establish contact as directly as possible, preferably speaking to the person I will be interacting with. Once we have established contact and a communication method, I am open to receiving as much or as little information as is comfortable to provide.

At first I did not see myself as a speciality disability Escort, however much of this is due to my approach I just did not see many disabilities as disabilities. As time has gone on I appreciate a wide range of clients, and have found my experience widening further. Thanks to the TLC I receive enquiries from right across the Northwest of England and even further, where possible I will try to work something out either in conjunction with my own travels or specifically for each individual. As you will see from my guest book someone has felt able to be open about their experience as a disabled client, and I can reassure you there are others in there who haven’t felt the need to declare themselves. All I know is each and very person I see is just amazing.

Ruth

Screen Bleed

Due to a problem with my android phone repair is on it’s way, I will not be able to access most websites including forums & directories when not at my PC.

Answering direct emails may also become an issue.

Phone or if a regular/repeat client succinct text is the way to get in touch…………repair arranged for early next week.

Each day I will be at my PC first thing each morning (apart from Saturday tomorrow) and last thing at night (apart from Friday tonight).

As ever please see my website for more information, and of course my Adultwork profile;

www.sweetstrawberryruth.com

Strawberryblonde on AW

07849 574668

Thank you Londinium

Just back from a really successful trip to London, so successful I am definitely encouraged to return again. The trip down went smoothly, thank you Northern Rail for redeeming yourself. I managed to negotiate the Tube with more luggage than myself, thank you to the kind gentleman who helped me on and off the train. I fitted in my training a bit of sightseeing in the local area, kept my diet monitored thank you Sainsbury’s and M&S Food. Got to my event on time and enjoyed a great reception from the bookings I had accepted. On the last day I fitted in a final training session, bought a card from a little shop on the way to the gym and enjoyed making it home earlier than expected despite the threat of storm Freya I did have a few issues with the shower in my room, which I quickly rectified but otherwise all went incredibly well.

Prior to my trips away I had a very busy February, including another couple of photo shoots which I’ll feed into my galleries over the coming months ahead.

The strictest period of the year for one of my hobbies starts very soon, so barring accidents I don’t have any trips away planned for the spring. I will however be in the Manchester area for one day at the end of March, this enables me to offer bookings around Manchester at my usual rates, rather than the extra fee I usually have to add on for travel time. Get in touch if you’d like to know more.

Today is a rainy day so I’ve some admin planned, then possibly a trip out to see someone special.

That’s all for now

Ruth

Birthday Month

Christmas seems to have run right into January for me, this year the festive season set of a feeling of renewal and excitement. I decided that Christmas would not end with New Year, it would continue to my birthday and beyond. As a birthday treat I booked myself into the iconic hotel I had wanted to look around for many years, the hotel did not disappoint. On hearing about my forthcoming stay a client loaned me a book about the hotel, I really enjoyed wandering around looking for the features not all of which were included in the guide. A good night’s sleep and wonderful atmosphere to great me in the morning made it an incredibly refreshing stay.

Last week I popped down to Manchester firstly to connect with a couple of new clients, which I managed to co-ordinate with a photoshoot with one of the two photographers I like to use. Now many people think I’m naturally photogenic, however I’m absolutely useless photographing myself. I’ve tried everything even bought lights, roped in family and friends and also a few clients have had a go. Nope it doesn’t work. I also really like just having a good session of lingerie, different clothing changes rather than trying to grab something at home when I have time. I also like the photographers input, it encourages me to be creative and away from home I feel a lot freer (for example I’m not trying to keep personal items out of the shot, that also includes boring things like trailing wires, electrical sockets, strange light pulls, all sorts of things). I got an action packed 3 hours, yet still couldn’t fit everything in which leaves more for next time. Another video is also in the making I’m so glad I’m not an actress, I’m told film directors can demand up to 30 takes – 3 takes is more than enough for me. I was so wanting to finish the strawberries, and also my hip flexors were aching from preventing my legs skidding away on the window ledge. “Ooh the glamour” I say with a smile.

Afterwards I experienced the same 1 hour drive out of Manchester as I did at the same time of day last time, I could use the train however this visit involved an outcall which would have been difficult if not impossible without a car. Also back home is on a branch line serviced by Northern Rail who often cancel trains, or have regular strike action affecting the service. I will however be using the train on my forth coming visit to London in March, and am seriously considering not taking the car into Manchester for my next stay in 3 weeks time. Speaking of which if you’d like to arrange a booking for my next trip, you need to be letting me know now and getting your deposit paid. If I don’t have anything in place a few days before I will cancel my accommodation switching to a ‘non-working’ travel plan.

Ruth

Your Christmas Treat

Christmas started on my return from my trip to London this week, it actually started with my glimpse of Christmas lights from the black cab taking me to my hotel. My trip was an academic one not the ‘shopping and a show’ fantasy, it was also chance to check out the feasibility of offering a few bookings on a return trip at the beginning of March. I am pleased to say that yes I will definitely be able to accept a few bookings and some of those have now been agreed.

During my trip I had a very rare meal out which although got off to a rocky start regards poor service, culminated in great happiness when my much deliberated over main course turned out to be a show stealer. Gasps were heard when the giant gamba prawns were brought to my place at the table. From that point The Mango Tree went up in my estimation, an absolute culinary delight I ate everything including the shell. Back to academia the following day then off back home with a bit of a minor detour to avoid the randomness which is Northern Rail and their weekend strikes. When it works I love public transport, when it’s difficult I find a way around it.

Back home I could start the Christmas music and hang the very few decorations I cam manage, I prefer an under-to-moderate Christmas and see it as a time to enjoy rather than feel pressured into some sort of competition.

I will be available for outcalls most days over the Festive period and can be as flexible as you like, apart from 1pm-6pm Christmas day when I’m completely unavailable including phone black out! It may also be worth knowing that the few incalls I accept will not be possible 23rd-28th December, only outcalls during that 5 day period.

Aside from that you’ll have noticed I’ve had some new photos taken which were an absolute success, I always find taking my own snaps very difficult so really do need a professional shoot every once in a while. I plan to visit at least one if not both same photographers in the first few months of 2019. I’ve also reinstated an advert on X-North.co.uk where I have also been included in annual advent calendar, just click on the doors to find me.

In the meantime I like to be able to offer you a small Christmas treat, which might be in the form of a chocolate truffle, clementine or a new piece of lingerie.

Have a great festive season, I hope to see you soon.

Best wishes
Ruth x

Discretionary discretion

I made a post about this last year, and I’m sorry to have to do so again. I am often asked about discretion and what do I do if I see someone in the street? The answer is that everything which happens within a booking stays confidential, unless you cause me harm or distress which would lead me to seek advice or report to the police. Extreme situations aside if I were to bump into you outside of a booking, I’m most likely to be in my own little World and possibly not even notice, if on the very small chance I did recognise you then I carry on and take my cue from you which may be a smile, nod, wink “Hi” or nothing at all. I carry confidences from several areas of my life, so this is not unusual for me.

Unfortunately this can be quite difficult for other people there have been a couple of instances where someone who had previously told me about the importance of discretion, has on spotting me outside has been extremely indiscreet in one instance shouting at me in a public place another approaching me whilst out with someone close. I also have a great tale from many years ago about a dinner date in a quiet restaurant, during which the person who’d booked me waxed lyrical about his requirement for absolute discretion followed by talking loudly about my website and how he came to choose me. At no time did he consider that person sat quietly at the other table………..or the staff serving us…………

Many clients are afraid other people will guess, you can be assured I will always behave in a carefully considered, professional manner. Also I will do my best to avoid encountering anyone who I feel doesn’t have the same sense of discretion, or who is unable to respect basic boundaries of privacy.

A period of pampering approaches

As a few people already know I haven’t been able to eat out for a very long time now, this is going to change in the next 6 weeks and perhaps sooner. This means I will be able to accept dinner dates and overnights which include meals, as well as any other booking in which you’d like to chat over some food. I won’t however be dining every night, and there definitely won’t be any wining because I am long term tee total. Some assume the not touching alcohol is the result of a ‘my body is a temple’ approach, the truth is that a long time ago I had a serious alcohol problem during which I also took drugs. Having gotten myself through all of that I decided the safest option is to be completely tee total, which includes also avoiding any prescribed drugs wherever possible.

Lately I’ve been finding it difficult to be photogenic, really lacking inspiration so booked myself a glamour shoot with my old friend Nicola in November, I feel I need a few of her shots just to boost my profile a little bit. I’ll also be engaging with Phil (the other photographer I use) on one of his trips north, for his very fresh angle on photography.

I can feel a definite period of pampering going on, which is going to be great fun.

Blogging

Ooh what to write on an August Bank holiday Monday I’m drinking coffee before going out for a planned walk which is part of my training this week, listening to the soundtrack from a film I watched last night.

I’ve had a tendency to be quite serious focusing on documentaries, and historical dramas so this year have made a point of forcing myself to watch a few musicals. Last night was one of those ‘musical’ nights, this time it was time to watch something I was brought up to avoid and it’s definitely put a smile onto my face. I’m just adding the soundtrack to my little ipod shuffle so I can bounce along whilst pounding the paths.

Over the next month or two there will be a few weekends when I’m not contactable, I will post these on my availability page as and when they become definite. This does not mean I’m ceasing weekend bookings, simply means a few Saturdays and Sundays when I may not be available and/or am not responding as quickly as usual to phone calls or emails. The first one will be 2nd September, second one 15th September my phone will be off all day on both dates. I will however be fully contactable the following days, when I shall also catch up on any unanswered emails. As ever I do my best to respond to all contact, and the more specific you can be in any emails the easier it is to reply.

The download is now completed, so off I bounce.

Ruth x

PS returned home to find Dead Ringers on Radio 4, it seems the light-hearted theme continues.

Nervousness

I’ve a lot of time and patience for nerves, I also believe some apprehension serves a useful protective function. Sometimes however you might feel everyone knows what you are doing, and you might try to take steps to cover it up. Please be reassured the best way to get yourself noticed is to go over the top with an elaborate cover story, supported by carrying large bags, boxes, dressing for a formal function, hiding behind corners for fear of the person putting their bin out.

My advice when we meet is ‘act normal’ like two acquaintances saying hello, one friend visiting another or on any other business we wish to engage in. Neither of us has a big sign over a heads saying ‘This is an Escort booking’, and I meet people of all ages and backgrounds right across my life, which can include asking for their professional skills. Lurking in the shadows, pulling down a hat and collar right up is not something which my friends and colleagues do when meeting, I also don’t usually need a cover box or bag (although my little coolbag food bag goes everywhere with me) – perhaps it is however the norm for you? 😉

Feet hardly touching the floor

No not because I’m sat on a high stool, all because I’ve been really busy enjoying life.

Last month I went to see the stage production of Warhorse at The Lowry Salford Quay’s, this has been something I’ve been wanting to see for quite a few years and I was not disappointed. The stage play and special effects really got across the reality of the horrors or war, whilst being an excellent work of art. I particularly liked the way in which the puppets moved the horses ears were fabulous, as was the pecking duck. The following morning I completed the short lap of the Salford Quay outdoor swim session, it’s been a while since I swam any distance at all so I was a little apprehensive. I was only in for 18 minutes which without a wet suit was plenty, really enjoyed the experience of having a measured course without the bumping into people, walls and ropes of an indoor pool. I emerged feeling calm and exhilarated ready for the remainder of the day.

I also visited Manchester in June for a photo shoot some of which I’ve uploaded to my photos page, and as usual will continue adding every so often. This time I didn’t make a video which having seen the stills, I now regret because I think seeing the red dress swish and swirl around would have looked great. This red dress I spied in a charity shop window making up a Royal Wedding themed display, as soon as I saw it the flame red colour caught my eye and I decided to try it on. At first it was a little tight around the top, but the fabric felt and looked gorgeous so I bought it and having dropped a kilo in weight the fit is now absolutely perfect.

I’ve also been out to the cinema as well as a few social events, a couple of which I’ll keep underwraps for discretion and the film I’ll talk about in my next blog.

Bye for now
Ruth x