Posted: 02-05-2020

Fetishist or Fetish

The other day an enquirer asked “What is a fetish?”, at the time I answered “Fetish is a name some give to preferences they consider unexpected or away from the norm”. Today reading about the kink community I bumped into this word again, a quick Google returned this from the Oxford English Dictionary;

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noun: fetish; plural noun: fetishes

a form of sexual desire in which gratification is linked to an abnormal degree to a particular object, item of clothing, part of the body, etc.
“a man with a fetish for surgical masks”

Whilst the example provided is quite topical at the moment, fetish can cover a whole range of erotic focal points. I once had a lover who had a thing about hearing the zip of a jean fly, up or down. Some clients have particular fetishes which with trust and time we have explored, some like gyneacological instruments, like the example medical gloves and masks. Sometimes it is the smell, or the sound of them being applied. Foot fetish is probably a well known, often heard desire to feel, touch, even worship the feet. Whatever fetish it is the person holding really turns weak at the knees, and becomes very aroused at the pivotal stimuli. Sometimes a fetish will be revealed at enquiry point, I will then try to understand and incorporate the fetish as close as possible. Rubber, leather I may however struggle with not least because I find latex very constricting, difficult to drive in not to mention indiscrete and not something I would wear without prompting. With a little discussion it may however be possible to fit into a fetish, my wardrobe is quite versatile and sometimes the fetish is as simple as a pair of long satin gloves. Whatever the fetish the effect can be very powerful, and empowering at the same time. Entrusted with an individual’s festish being able to give that level of pleasure and excitement, provides me with a huge sense of satisfaction and pride.